Somethings You Can't Explain.

Men are from Mars,
Women, in turn; are from Venus.



We are just TOO different, and too separate to be treated as one. And yet, God said let man and woman unite and be one. He wasn't joking when He said it, and it was no joke when He made it happen. It still is no joke when you talk about taking any one man and any one woman and make them ONE.

It is soul-grindingly painful to have man and woman be one in soul heart and mind when smaller things are in the way of getting the goal scored. Smaller, and somewhat easier to overcome sort of things, but nonetheless, still barriers.

Somewhat easier does not sum it up.
I have learnt in the past week that it is indeed, NOT easy.

It seems as though I know nothing about what's needed to be worked on in a relationship, but truthfully, there are more things I know in my head, and yet I do not practice it. It is so easy to say "Sacrifice is the ultimate key", but when it comes to sacrificing ego, I fall short.

Fall shorter than any other person would.

But sometimes we are just so blinded by the hurt we feel that we just CANNOT, and are unable to see the other side's logic. Our defense mechanisms just rocket sky high and we cannot see beyond what is hurting us. Can we blame ourselves? Should we blame ourselves?

We, on one side; are very much preoccupied with self-healing than to see the other person's point of view. In the process of healing, we attack so that we do not get hurt any further- something called defense. It's plain natural selection. And on the other, we cannot use that as an excuse to be insensitive to the other person's needs.

But does this mean that the other person has no right to feel hurt? If you were to drive on the street and accidentally run over someone's foot with your car and you didn't notice it, doesn't it still mean that the person is hurt?

Ignorance is bliss, true
But it only goes as far as you.

Just because you didn't think you hurt the other person does not mean the person doesn't feel the pain. Knowing or not you hurt the person doesn't matter anymore. What matters is- the person feels pain.

Although so, one cannot put the full blame on the person who inflicted the pain. This is valid, of course, solely because this person honestly didn't know. One cannot blame him for not knowing! After all, it wasn't his fault his car has such a wonderful suspension system right?

But what is weighing heavily in my heart is that, what if the person who's foot you ran over yelled at you saying you ran over his foot and that he is in pain because of it? Do you not show concern in whether he is alright or not? Do you not take this man's word for it? Can you not see him grimacing in pain? Is that not evidence enough to know that you have indeed hurt him?

So what is it that obliges the offender? Should it be an acknowledgment? Maybe it should be an apology. Or maybe it could just be a show of concern..?
You tell me?



But there are things, sometimes, you cannot explain. I cannot explain. I cannot explain the idea of perception. But the one thing that I thought was general enough is apparently not that general after all.

What you think you did right will always be right as far as you are concerned. You don't know you are wrong until you are told so.


BUT.
Your freedom ends where my nose starts.



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